Being pregnant makes me stress about everything. I know that it's just my hormones, and I try to stop myself from thinking, but as I'm lying in bed awake due to pregnancy induce insomnia, it's hard to turn my brain off. My biggest worry these days is about how my little Maggie is going to deal with having a new baby come into our home in 2 months. I worry about how she is going to deal with me being in the hospital and having Dave or Grandma Betts put her to bed at night. I worry about how she is going to react when I am nursing a baby and am not able to respond to her immediately. I already feel guilty that I am somehow making her grow up too fast. At 16 months she will no longer be my 'baby' and I'm a little sad about it.
Lately, I've been obsessed with watching TLC's 'A Baby Story'. It's fun for me to watch how the different couples react to the changes that a baby brings. Sometimes, I think that people are crazy. It makes me laugh when I hear 'we have 2 dogs right now, I don't think that taking care of a baby can be that much harder'... oh just you wait. Then there are times when I can TOTALLY relate.
There was a couple in their 30s, who were having their second boy just 15 months after the birth of their first baby boy, Nico. She had to have a c-section with her 1st because he was breech and so the Dr. suggested another c-section because it hadn't been that long since the last one. As she lay in her hospital bed getting prepped for surgery, she was crying. She told her husband that she was feeling guilty about making their oldest baby grow up too fast, everything she said was exactly how I have been feeling about Maggie and our new baby. Her husband took her hand and said, 'You need to think of it as giving Nico the best present in the world. We are giving him a brother. They will be playmates, and a support for each other for the rest of their lives.'
I was really touched by that. I know Maggie's world is going to change, and it may be hard on her at first, but I know the change will be for the better. We are giving her a sister, what an amazing gift. I'm not sure what I would do without my sisters, they are my best friends. Hopefully, Maggie and the new one will have that too. **I know it may take a few years**
Ahhh...Laura. Good post. Maggie is a lucky girl foe sure one to get a sister and also to have such a loving Mamma!
ReplyDeleteit will be ok. i worried about jonah getting a new sibling and he was 2....luckily, he did have meltdowns but it wasn't ever directed at sophie. even now, when he gets frustrated with having a sibling, he sees it as frustrated with life instead. maggie's so young, it'll take less than 3 months for her to settle in to the idea of a new sib. it'll be more traumatic for you. is that comforting? :P here's hoping for another good c-section/delivery and lots of peace for the mama. :)
ReplyDeleteEverything is going to work out just fine. I cried and cried after I had Thomas, because I worried that Jonathon was not getting enough attention. Jonathon was fine though, and they are the best of friends now. Also, Henry was 20 months when I had Jack - Henry loves Jack and he is never jealous. Just be ready for some great days ahead when you just have to let Maggie pull all of the sandwich bags and plastic wrap out of their boxes while you are feeding the new baby. And, feel free to call me anytime - Maybe I can help you laugh your way through it.
ReplyDeleteShe will be fine, its amazing how children adjust to things....ALl my kids were goodm and they loved the new addition. It think its when there is years between the childrent hey have a harder time with it. I think all moms feel guilty its just the way it goes, and it never ends....Our lives are about their and worring about them for the next 50 years. ITs our blessing and out curse all at once..But good luck and you will do great!!!!!
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